Facebook Creeping is not as much fun as it used to be

So a couple of days ago Seth Godin wrote about how surfing the web is a good thing unless you are aimlessly wasting time [which is terrible]! So that got me thinking about facebook and how it is solely responsible for wasting so much time and effort and energy. Think about all the time you have spent creeping people you know or you wish you knew. As mind numbing as this activity is you loved the thrill of what you may find next. What about the friend you had not seen since grade 8? Often though you were left to feel disappointed in how boring ppls lives are and even mad as to how bad they are at hiding it but you just could not stop yourself from wanting more of it.

Well I am happy to report that this activity is diminishing. Just like the popularity of the old talk shows such as sally jesse or springer that you used to watch for the pure shock value so has facebook creeping decreased in shock value. You pretty much know the friend who can't stop posting stupid drunk pictures, the stranger who travels for exotic places every week and you have already deleted the person who thinks everything their kid does deserves posting on facebook.

I think facebook is in its decline and I am happy about it. Facebook: you had it coming!!

Recently I was introduced to a community program called Timeraiser. A program that looks to bring together people looking for opportunities/work/networking/developing skills and not for profit organizations that very much need the time and energy of young people.

Similar to any fundraiser, the Timeraiser volunteers have to go through the same steps and processes in order to organize events and generate buzz - but the end goal is to raise volunteer time rather than money. In many ways this is more difficult to accomplish as time is scarce and you have to committ to future time in order to participate in this event. But the rewards are incredible.

The concept was born when the founder of the time raiser program was in university and he found himself at a fundraiser auctioning art and he had no money to give. But he loved the art piece. What he did have was time and that's how he got the idea of creating a organization that brought together art, volunteers and not for profit agencies. The idea is brilliant really. Especially for young folks who are looking to develop skills in a particular fields you can view this as an internship opportunity where you get to gain breadth and experience. This is also an awesome way to network and meet professional people in various industries. Finally, there is no better gift to give than time and though we can all agree we have very little free time I am willing to bet most of us can make time (if we care enough to do so).

Here is an overview of how timeraiser event works: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVm5J4YxroM

The next Timeraiser is happening in London, Canada May 13th @ Club Mansion!!!

p.s. I wonder how often we get an idea to do/change/create something for the better and we let it slip away and forget about it

All of us are people pleasers. Even you. From an early age you learn that reward awaits those who "do as they are told" and we continue into this path well into our adulthood. It is only human nature to be liked and fit in and impress and please. Do you ever wonder if you are actually pleasing the right people? Your boss? your kids? Your spouse? your friends? Maybe all of the above. The interesting thing is that we try to do our best to make other people happy but not sure if we often stop to see if we are making ourselves happy. What if every decision you made going forward was based in making you happy? Would your decisions be different or very much the same?

Incremental Progress

When you want something waiting is the hardest part. Especially if you do not know for sure that you will get whatever you are waiting for. So often we give up or worse yet we settle for less because that way we are guranteed to get something as opposed to nothing.

Waiting is boring. And as one of my professors used to say boredom is the worest enemy of humanity. But does waiting breed boredom or is it the other way around?
Say you want a job. You do all the things that you need to do to get you there. You prep your resume and CV, you apply for jobs, you network and.... nothing. So you dust yourself off, tweak your resume, expand your network apply for more jobs and... still nothing. What do you do next?
Apply this to anything that currently keeps you up at night (promotion, love, money) and ask yourself if you are still working hard or have you given up and pretending like you are still in the game? Worse yet, if you are tired and feeling lost, most likely boredom has kicked in which makes you much less effective at doing what you're supposed to be doing in order to get the desired outcome. And boredom is truly the ENEMY.

So if you find yourself in a rut here are some tips to keep you fresh and clear of boredom:


Patience - All good things are worth the wait (and the fight) so make sure you are doing both.
Patience implies waiting but waiting alone is not enough. If you are looking to get somewhere you will need to do the "fighting" part even when you do not see the point and regardless of how tired or discouraged your feel. Think of the obstabcles as a test of how badly you want the end result and use it as a tool to stay positive, stay on course and keep doing what you're doing.

People - Use your people. Ask for help when you need it, lean on them for support and network to always expand your personal web. It is for sure the greatest resource we all have so leverage it for all it's worth.

peaks and valleys - This is related to the the point above: people. Stay humble during your peaks and lend a hand to those in need. This will come in handy when you reach your own valleys.

performance - are you a sore loser? When you don't see the light at the end of the tunnel do you keep at it? When something is not working are you willing to listen and change your strategy? Only those who are most adaptable will succeed in the end.

Path - Seth Goding put it most beautifully:

"the ardent or insane pursuit of a particular goal is a good idea if the steps you take along the way also prep you for other outcomes, each almost as good (or better). If pushing through the Dip and bending the market to your will and shipping on time and doing important and scary work are all things you need to develop along the way, then it does not really matter so much if you don't make the goal you set out to reach."

life is beautiful

"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass... it's about learning how to dance in the rain."

That is quote from my friend's facebook page who passed away yesterday. She fought cancer with all her might for 3 years, 6 months and 7 days. She was a beautiful spirit, a courageous woman and a fierce warrior. She was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer on October 1st, 2006 from which she recovered and went into remission. Later on she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer which continued to spread into other organs. August 2008 she was given a couple of months to live which she vowed to outlive. And she did.

Tonight my heart is heavy with her loss but I remember her not only for the incredible human being that she was but for the legacy that she left behind. Her life was cut short because of a horrific disease that has taken the lives of millions. She fough till her very last breath for the gift of life which we all often take for granted.

So my wish today is that we are all a little bit kinder to ourselves; regardless of the demands, pressures, wishes and dreams we all hope to achieve... I hope to take a moment and let it be. All we have is this moment and most things truly do not matter at the end.
I wish we are a little bit kinder to each other, especially those closest to us. We manage to punish them the most and forget to appreciate them for all they mean to us and the role they play in our lives.
Finally live the life you are meant to live. We are all here for only a short amount of time and how much we enjoy that time is up to you.

I did not get into the nano MBA program. Yesterday afternoon I received an email informing me that I was not selected for the Nano MBA program. I was disappointed. Whenever you pour your heart into something and it does not work out you are bound to feel let down. I had no doubt that it was going to be very tough getting in. The competiton was steep and of course many other optimists like myself were hoping to get a piece of Seth Godin's mind. Spending some quality time with the man who tends to inspire, educate and explain chaotic world in a very simple way would have been a dream. I am sorry I did not get in. I will try again if again comes around. Till then i will keep writing.


The email from Seth and Ishita.


Thank you. I am inspired.

Wow. More than inspired. Over a thousand extraordinary people applied...

Thanks so much for taking the time to apply to my 5-day program. I’m overwhelmed by the response, in numbers, sure, but also in the sheer quality of what came in.

There are people all over the world who are standing up for what they believe in and choosing to do work that matters. You are in very good company, and reading through the hundreds and hundreds of applications was both overwhelming and cause for optimism.

Of course, choices have to be made, and unfortunately, we couldn’t choose everyone. I hope you won’t take it personally, or as a comment on your work, but we’re unable to find room for you this time. I know that in narrowing this down to some finalists we have made some obvious mistakes, and missed people who would have been perfect, people who no doubt will achieve great things and brag about how we didn't pick them… can't wait till that happens!

Any selection process, by its nature, is flawed. This one especially so, because there’s limited information and too many good choices. So, forgive me for not being able to make it work. Unfortunately, we're too swamped to reconsider any of the decisions.

Thanks again for the important work you’re doing and for your enthusiasm in applying. Keep making a difference.


Seth (and Ishita!)


p.s. As much as it sucks getting rejected I must say this is the best rejection email that i have ever received. When I first read the email I almost felt good about myself. And then it sunk in.

NOTE: Photo is courtesy of Paul Idasz

Only if you're a hipster

One of the blogs I follow is Real Johnson. If you are ever looking for a good laugh or just want to waste some time online feel free to check it out.
http://www.realjohnson.com/

May I please recommend the answer Real hipster gives a reader seeking advice on how to impress a girl. Funny, witty and ridicilous.

p.s. Johnson your answer to 'the patriot' was weak. Quoting miss teen usa? Who cares about teen usa. Even 3 years ago it got way too much media attention. Please try again.

Great Presentation!

I attended a presentation from which I walked away very impressed. I witnessed a stellar presentation.

What the presenter did to be successful:

• well-versed presenter - their presentation style was calm and collected. Delivered information in a non-threatening way which quickly put the audience at ease. Added humor which also helped

• knowledgeable and prepared - presenter knew their stuff and their extensive experience on the subject matter became clear early on. This earned them trust and made the audience listen

• Tools - the presenter had brought some very simple yet very effective software to illustrate the points being made. The software was rudimentary but yet it served the purpose by quickly calculating results which helped put things in perspective. The simplicity of the tool helped everyone understand by focusing on the things that mattered without being distracted with the bells and whistles that sometimes come along with more advanced technology

• Flexibility - the presenter let the audience set the pace of the presentation and control the agenda. Needless to say this can be risky as the audience can go off on a tangent. However, as the presenter acted as a host/subject matter expert during certain parts of the presentation, much valuable discussion (and learning) took place
  

Nano-MBA date change

I can't believe that Seth Godin has changed the interview date to better accommodate the common-folk like myself (that is if I am fortunate enough to get selected for an interview). Instead of conducting interviews on April 17th, he has decided to re-schedule them on May 14th. This change will allow potential candidates to only take one trip to NYC vs. two trips. Mr. Godin also added that for those people that who get selected for interviews but have"their heart set" on the original date he would accommodate that too.

How incredible would it be if all organizations/corporations/entrepreneurs/not-for-profit thought like that: What can I do to make things better for my customer even if it costs me time, money, extra effort?

I am still in awe because things like this rarely happen. Disagree? Think about the last time something was offered to enrich you as a person, for FREE, and on top of that you are notified that to make things easier/better/more convenient for you an adjustment has been made? In addition if you prefer the previous conditions that can be accommodated too!

That's what i thought.

Why travel?

Today, I was talking to a dear friend and it prompted me to write about one of my favourite things in the world: travel. I don’t consider myself an avid traveler; People who take years to wander around the world explore places, different cultures as they search for themselves. I am more the selective, yet generous traveler who lives for the experience and falls in love with the process. I feel the same way about traveling as Carrie Bradshaw felt about shoes: Love them passionately, cherish them till death do us part and consider for what they are - a lifetime investment. Each trip creates its own story, brings along its own special memories invokes emotions and feelings same way the aroma of your grandma’s favourite soup will always bring you back to childhood memories of spending summers by the lake, doing your own laundry (yup, no washing machine) and suntanning as if you had never heard of skin cancer. Love to travel! Reminds me of a specific phase in life and has carved me into the person I am today.

Frances Mayes states the following in her book A Year in the World:

"When traveling you have the delectable possibility of not understanding a word of what is said to you. Language becomes simply a musical background for watching bicycles zoom alongside a canal, calling for nothing from you. You open, as in childhood, and -for a time- receive this world [with fresh perspective, distinct ideas and better understanding]."

When you travel the world begins to shrink and overtime you do not notice limits but rather possibilities; the world becomes your backyard where its your for taking and exploring and enjoying.

Because my family emigrated to Canada when I was thirteen, I learned early on that in essence all people the same. Regardless of economical conditions, culture, religion we all want the same things. We yearn and work and love and complain and then we wake up to do it all over again. But you’ll never realize the core of that unless you wander the world for a little while and talk to a few people that at first glance seem very different from you. Travel gifts you that perspective.

My sister and I were in Prishtina,Kosova looking to catch a cab. It was a hot humid day, there was plenty of people in the streets and we had way too much luggage. A clear sign that we were foreign, spoiled and had money to spend. As we approached the parking lot where much taxi drivers wait in the scorching sun for customers we were the perfect prey. Just for a moment let me define the taxi driver for the Albanian standards: Men of all ages, looking to support their families by driving strangers in their private cars. You see the unemployment rate is 40% in Kosova and when it comes to a minority groups its even higher. People resort to desperate means to earn a bare minimum living and provide for their families. So needless to say when my sister and I approached the area, we had barely set foot in the designated parking area where they had all parked 7-8 men flocked around us with questions and bombarding us with their best rates. This is not uncommon: Something very similar occurred in Barbados. As my Canadian friends and I stepped out of the "Serenade of the seas" looking for a fun-filled-day in the city of Bridgetown we were greeted by the local men and women, carrying posters advertising their own tours, various flyers and a some strong vocal cords yelling the different "Best spots to see in Barbados". The screaming, self-promoting and the determination reminded me of the vendors of St. Jacob’s Farmers market in Waterloo, Ontario early on a Saturday morning.

Coming home and going back to work is always hard to do after a vacation. In fact, I wont lie; Monday morning consists of a few tears as I try to adjust to the drudgeries of the day to day demands. But as the days go by and I soak up my the experience of another wonderful trip I am once again reminded that I am exactly the same as Murat, the taxi driver, and a proud father of two, the young lady who provided us with a beautiful day of sailing and Dalia who sells me fresh fuit every Saturday morning. I wake up to go to work earn a living but I can do it less determination, less effort and perform "ok" yet still get a paycheck by the end of the week. Most importantly I am compensated enough not only to earn a good living but save up for travel. It is good dose of reality and a bittersweet reminder that I am one of the very fortunte people living in an overcrowded world who has the privilege to live the life I want to, make any choices I please and live the life I was meant to. That thought alone is certainly worth trying my harderst each day and doing my very best.

Photographer: Paul Idasz

asking the right questions

I cannot help but notice that people have asked numerous questions regarding the nano-MBA program. What is really interesting is that the same question has been asked several times. Worded differently but the same question. Then there are those questions that ask about re-defining the rules. I know you said this but... I have special circumstances.

SO before I continue any further I will include the rules as they are laid out on Mr. Godin's website.

Here's a checklist. You should only apply if all of these apply to you:
1. You can spend five days and nights in New York from May 17 through 21, 2010.
2. You currently work for a great boss who is willing to write you a recommendation after you make it through the initial screen.
3. The organization you work for makes the world a better place (it doesn't have to be a non-profit).
4. You speak English perfectly and have no trouble doing a lot of reading and writing.
5. You've read at least four of my books--so we can have a running start.

So I will not discuss the questions that directly contradict the rules (i.e. I can't be there in person during some of the dates above....). In this case you do not qualify and asking the obvious question is only wasting time. If you choose to apply then go for it and present your case, but I am not sure asking questions adds any value.

I will focus instead on rule number 3 because it allows some flexibility and hence the one that seems to have spurred lots of questions. If I had to guess I would say that rule number 3 was purposely built in with flexibility because it's supposed to asses how you feel about the work you do. Like most things in life, perception is reality and if you believe your company makes a difference and you are passionate and believe in what you do then that's reality. And as long as you can convey that in your application I would think you fulfill rule #3.
Now when people ask questions like can I still apply if I work for a bank, insurance company, high tech company etc. it sounds like an excuse to not give it your best shot; to save yourself time, effort, to not give it 100%.
So then what is the point of trying? What's the point of trying for anything if you are not going to put your best foot forward? Then you are going to be mediocre and that is just not good enough not only for the nano-MBA opportunity but pretty much everything. It is a waste.

Seth Godin

Seth Godin's blog in one that I follow on a regular basis. I got to see him in Waterloo last year at a Communitech event and I fell in love with everything he said. There is no doubt that Seth Godin is an incredible speaker but what he has to say is so simple yet so profound. And he delivers it in such a modest, yet confident way that you have no choice but to believe every word he says. I was mesmerized.

We have a online discussion board at my work where we share ideas, stories and info about the work we do. To provide some inspiration i often share seth's views on various matters from his blog. You cannot imagine my excitement when I went to visit his blog for my daily mind therapy and noticed that no other but Seth Godin himself was offering a 5-day nano-MBA seminar in May. I had tears in my eyes. An opportunity to spend 5 days with my guru, daily muse and most amazing man alive. The opportunity of a lifetime.
So, just so you all know I have to do everything I can to get this opportunity. Application is due March 31 so the next 6 days will be dedicated to ensuring I have done everything possible to present why i am a worthy candidate.

Hence the blog.

I am not going to lie. I have wanted a blog forever now but something about putting my life, my thoughts, my opinions out there for the world to see and judge was preventing me from actually doing it. I am not afraid of difference of opinions nor do i shy away from a good conflict. There are very few things I like more than a good, heart wrenching turn-your-world-upside-down debate. Where would we be without discussion and exchange of ideas?? But yet I was still afraid. It's one thing to have a debate and share ideas with people you know but online for the ENTIRE WOLD WIDE TO SEE? I needed a push and a reason.

So thank you Seth. Thank you for once again, through your written word, giving me the courage, the inspiration and the wisdom to do the right thing. Thank you for a new beginning.

p.s. for those who live under a rock please check out: http://sethgodin.typepad.com/

p.p.s. I already have a MBA. But this is more of a reason to do the nano-MBA. The intention of any quality MBA program is to expand your thinking and help you think outside the box. See problems in new ways. Understand other people so you can work with them more effectively. Who can't use more of that?